Your aging mother might very well be nervous about this upcoming move. Assisted living is a great elder care option for people of advancing years, whether they need help on a daily basis or are relatively independent, still.
Your mother might very well be independent for the most part, only needing a few reminders or some help every once in a while, but whether or not she is excited about this move, looking forward to it, this was her idea, or she feels she has no other option, nervousness can be part of the moving process.
We need to be aware of the nerves that can take place for somebody you love, especially as they look at this new life opportunity. And, it’s important that she realizes this is an opportunity, not a sentence, not a burden.
Here are a few things you can do that may just help her overcome some of this nervousness about this move to assisted living.
Talk about activities she might be able to do.
There may be numerous activities that the assisted living facility participates or allows senior residents to do. Each assisted living community is different so don’t assume just because one has a certain activity that others will do the same.
Find out specifically what types of activities may be available to residents at the community your mother is about to move into. Then, you can keep her mind focused on what she is about to experience, the positives, rather than the loss or doubt or fear she has in leaving this place she has called home for so long.
Help her pack and go through various items at home.
Packing up is very difficult, especially if your mother has lived in the same place for years or even decades. Offering to help her pack and go through various mementos and furniture and clothing and so forth can alleviate a great deal of stress.
It might be this stress that is causing her to be nervous about the move. She might be thinking, ‘I just won’t be ready yet’ or ‘I’m overwhelmed.’
If she knows she has you in her corner, that may go a long way toward helping her feel more comfortable and confident about this upcoming move.
If her friends are at assisted living already, encourage them to reach out to her.
If she has just one or two friends who are at assisted living at the moment, reach out to them and see if they would call her. Maybe she’s talked to them regularly for quite some time. Maybe she hasn’t spoke to them in years.
In either case, speaking to somebody who already knows the benefits assisted living offers can help to assuage many fears and doubts.
If they reach out to her, she might not be as nervous as she likely is at the moment.